Discussions about Tamil (the language) and Tamils (the people) like Periyar and Annadurai seem to abound currently in India because the question of national language is back in the limelight.
The Dhaka Tribune has an in-depth article on the history of Tamil language and the identity of its people.
Perhaps it is time for me to tell my thirsting-for-all-things-Tamil twelve-year old that her great-grandfather went to prison in the '60s, along with C. N. Annadurai, protesting against Hindi imposition.
But then again, I will have to deal with questions such as 'why don't you and daddy speak Tamil like Tamils do?', 'why don't you think in Tamil?' and 'when are you going to teach me Tamil?' Alas, no Tiger Mom am I.
So maybe it will become time for me to tell her that I am just about busy surviving somewhere, somehow; that, if my thatha wasn't snatched prematurely from this world, maybe I will now be a Tamil in Tamil Nadu rather than a Tamil in oblivion; that perhaps, she, my daughter, will have more opportunities to live life on her own terms; possibly, after the meandering and lost generations in between, she will connect right back to that proud, hardworking, self-respecting Tamil whose blood and love for the language runs deep in her veins.
Yes, maybe it is time for a Tamil moment between a Tamil mother and her much more Tamil daughter.
Saturday, June 21, 2014
Tamizh makkal, Tamizh magalgal (Tamils and Tamil daughters)
Sunday, June 15, 2014
Salt those wounds until well done
Salted wounds,
Pickle,
Fester well
When carefully nurtured
With
Cupfuls of neglect
Spoonfuls of arrogance
Fistfuls of cluelessness
About the responsibility of
Walking in another's shoes
However old and worn out.
Yet when the job is well done
The stench of sadness
Maybe yours to own
But it becomes mine to keep.
(C)
President's award for academics
My 12-year old graduated from elementary school last week and, as her parents, my husband and I were notified a week ahead that "one" among our children was receiving an award (it wasn't hard to guess which one). "It would be a wonderful surprise for your child if you could be in school on the last day at 8:30 a.m.", we were told.
Somewhat new to America's K-12 school system, we were unaware of the different awards and recognitions. On the day of the awards, we sat through all the certificates of participation, intramural achievements, awards for club activities, recognitions for volunteer efforts and appreciations for positive response to behavioral expectations. We were happy to see each of our children go up on stage at least once, but we suspected that something more was to come.
The principal, Ms. BR -- a warm, welcoming and very capable person -- began the last set of awards with a description of the President's awards. She read out loud a form letter from President Obama and announced to the school and the visiting parents that each child who receives this award will go home with a copy of the letter, a pin and a certificate. She also described the two categories within the award -- the President's Award for Educational Achievement and the President's Award for Educational Excellence. The former, she informed us, recognized all those students that show outstanding educational growth,
improvement, commitment or intellectual development in their academic
subjects and is meant to encourage and reward students who work hard and give
their best effort in school, often in the face of special obstacles to
their learning.
My line of work being in Assessment currently, my first thought was about children with disabilities, including learning disabilities such as dyslexia, ADHD, affective disorders. But the word 'obstacles' loomed large in my mind and I also imagined kids from difficult socioeconomic circumstances, family and immigration issues, custody battles. I was happy to know that the President's office was incorporating in their recognition the concern and efforts from Admissions committees in several institutions and from advocates of Diversity & Inclusion principles. I also heard Ms. BR say that she was going to call the former group of awardees first (the recipients of the Achievement award), give time for a collective applause and camera clicks, before calling out the latter group of awardees (the recipients of the Excellence award).
Then she proceeded to read out names with the loving pride reserved for principals who love their jobs -- first off, an Indian American boy looking well-adjusted and capable. Then an Indian American girl -- my girl. And my quiet, shy and unassuming girl walked to the stage and towards her principal only to find Ms. BR looking horrified for a split second and beginning to apologize. "I am sorry," she said, "this goes to show that even principals are capable of making mistakes. I am truly, truly sorry and quite embarrassed." It turns out that she had interchanged the order of the two lists and read the latter first. She sent the two kids on the stage back to their seats, assuring them that she will call their names again -- at the right time, in the right order. The whole incident lasted no more than a few minutes before the Achievement kids were honored and the Excellence kids were called back onto the stage. My husband would later turn to me and whisper that seeing our kid then and there made the Principal realize she was onto the wrong order of lists.
Later, in the unfettered privacy of the world of my thoughts, I wondered if Ms. BR would ever know or realize that she not only recognized my child for her academic excellence but also unknowingly gave testament to my child's strength and resilience and my own unsung efforts at surviving, to the best of my abilities, in the face of my own obstacles. My children, especially my first-born, have survived more than their share of school transfers; cushioned a forever-mismatched, sometimes-rocky/sometimes-rock solid marriage between their parents; watched their bread-winning mother making dents in a profession that is, perhaps, the most difficult for any foreign-trained professionals to be established in the United States and Canada; learned to help glue back the pieces of their mother every time she falls apart as the unhappy ghost of a birth family that denies her, period; rarely experienced grandparents' unconditional love; wondered if parties, vacations and wealth are only for relatives far away.
For such a 'non-recognition' of the trials in my family, Ms. BR, I will forever be grateful to you. I hope to live up to your non-expectations -- which, for someone who wakes up every morning wondering how much more has she possibly messed up everything under the sun, such 'obscurity' is as good as it could get.
Sunday, June 8, 2014
Petya
He was old for his kind - nearly 14. He wasn't too big; about a foot
tall and not more than 8-9 kgs. One couldn't make out his breed. He was
a mutt but there was definitely a lot of terrier blood in his veins.
His once lustrous coat had become dull, disheveled, dry and coarse. My
landlady, whose dog Petya was, no longer groomed him. She felt old,
tired, and frightened herself.
My landlady, like most elders in that society, wasn't yet accustomed
to being poor. She was past 65. Nurses like her, in other countries,
retired with reasonable comfort by that age. But she hadn't. Her entire
monthly pension would buy little beyond basic groceries and some
everyday necessities. Her government's treasury couldn't keep up with
the soaring inflation. So she had to work as a temporary staff-member at
a nearby hospital, in addition to collecting littered beer bottles in
the park and housekeeping in school #18. She wasn't as concerned with
earning money to buy warm boots or meat as she was with saving it to be
assured of a decent grave and a coffin.
Petya had no system in his body that wasn't malfunctioning. His eyes
-- tired, listless and gooey -- could be seen only when you flicked his
fringe away. You could hear his breathing -- short and coarse -- even
when he was 10 feet away. He wouldn't eat much. In fact he couldn't chew
at all. We would use a little of our precious milk to soak all the
table scraps we fed him. I was aware of the bad breath and bad odor he
reeked of and even if I got used to it, my friends couldn't. Still, he
slept on my bed for the entire year that I was a boarder. He couldn't
jump onto my bed and would wait patiently to be lifted up. When I walked
him he needed to rest every now and then. I always took with me pages
of old newspapers (paper napkins, tissues, and toilet-paper rolls were
rationed) to help with his 'poop'. He would get so constipated sometimes
that his hind legs would give in before his bowels did.
The day had come when I was going to take Petya to the polyclinic. I
was to be the one to put him to sleep. My landlady had first spoken to
me about that a month or so before. She could no longer afford to hire
daily help for her 95-year old mother who lived in another republic.
This particular arrangement had only been temporary anyway; in fact,
only ever since my landlady's brother with his family chose to become
part of the emigration statistics. The mother had been living with her
son and his family up until then. So now my landlady had to leave
town to take decisions about where and how her mother was going to
spend the rest of her life and make those necessary preparations. I was
also planning to move closer to school. I needed a place from where I
could merely walk back and forth to class. Public transportation was
getting worse. It was that damned government treasury again.
All this
meant that there would be no one to look after Petya, at least, not for
the next couple of months. I didn't think there were any animal shelters
in that country. It was a socialist society in name only. In reality,
certain signs of social responsibilities such as an animal shelter were
not visible.
We had searched in vain for something 'kind' to put him to sleep. But
such things, like everything else in that country, were either in dire
shortage or had simply disappeared from retail shelves. Neither scenario
helped common folks acquire goods easily. Even my vet student status
proved futile. My school's clinic and surgery had, for over a year,
received patients only if their owners could bring their own medical
supplies (which they would buy for exorbitant prices from speculanti).
The doctors in the lady's hospital just wouldn't spare the meager
amounts they were zealously guarding. "Regulations," they said. Plus, an
overdose for a dog would mean robbing a fraction from a human patient's
needs.
Petya and I left home very early in the cold of that April morning in
'92 for the tramway wouldn't be crowded at that time. He was, as usual,
happy as he could physically be when he went out for a walk -- which
wasn't much of a show any way. But to me, it seemed like there was more
intent and depth in his eyes that day. I was probably just reading too
much. We found a place to sit in the tram. I could see that he was
enjoying his ride. I didn't know if he should eat but for want of
something to do I fed him my keks. We were going to the City
Polyclinic for Small Animals, where I volunteered in my limited spare
time. The traumatologist there had said that she would try to find
something from her supplies. When we got off the tram I walked him very
slowly, giving him ample time to sniff every bush that interested him
and to mark every lamppost we passed.
At the clinic, the traumatologist, whom I simply called Jhenya, and
who always had her hands full, was giving discharge instructions rapidly
to a client who had brought in a cat. "Come on in," she waved when she
saw us, "kotik here is just about to leave." As promised, in a
few minutes she walked the client to the door and as she passed us, she
gently touched Petya (who responded by wagging his tail vigorously), and
cooed something to him. I couldn't hear what; neither could I see for
my eyes were moist at that time. I was aware of the next client
following Jhenya into the room already. Before attending to him, Jhenya
passed me some ampules of sodium citrate. I was startled. "Can this
be used to put dogs to sleep?" I asked hesitatingly. At the same time
my mind was racing at an astonishing speed to remember some relevant
pharmacophysiology facts. Jhenya looked at me with eyes fraught with
experience well beyond her age and explained, "Zaichka, this is
going to be more difficult than you think. It can't be intramuscular or
intravenous. You have to find the heart. Or a lung. Go between the ribs
at a 45 degree angle. Yes, it will be painful for him, but for only a
few minutes. We don't have anything peaceful for him. You understand,
nothing is like before in this country." Yes, I knew that. So I nodded
mutely. But I hadn't expected such a procedure for Petya. When my Monnie
back home was put to sleep, she never knew it. She just lay down to
sleep, probably a little puzzled. And never woke up. What have I gotten
into here?
I don't know when Petya lost his trust in me -- when I poked about
inexperiencedly between his ribs, when I punctured his lung, or when the
citrate began to work inside him by binding calcium ions. I watched in
horror as he twitched, grunted, almost inaudibly, and spasmed towards
his death. When the convulsive seizures started, I could bear no more. I
started to sob loudly, unashamedly, angrily. Angrily. Anger
- a highly prevalent emotional state, those days, in those communities.
Anger. My anger that day was with my own self, with Jhenya, and with
the country as a whole for all our collective feelings of helplessness.
How soon was it that Petya stopped breathing? I don't know, though it
seemed like a long time to me. Gentle arms wrapped around me and led me
to a chair and held me there until the last tear had been shed. When my
sobs had died, I gulped down the glass of weak, sugarless tea that was
passed to me. Wiping my mouth with the back of my sleeve, I got up. I've
got to be strong. I was studying to be a vet. In a country where even the people did not expect to be treated humanely.
With that swift change of mood that had already become a part of my
abilities, I put the glass down and turned to the limp, warm body of
Petya. I picked him up easily from the table that was used for both,
examinations and surgeries, and gathered him within his bed cloth. With
each of my hands I was grabbing hold of two of his limbs and two corners
of the bed-cloth. His head hung limply pulled by gravity. Why didn't I
just carry him in my arms like I usually did? I don't know. Probably I
wanted only air between him and me -- not contact. I walked out of the
traumatologist's, along the hallway, across the lounge, and out of the
doorway of the clinic. Groups of waiting clients along the way glanced
at us with varied degrees of interest. Hardly noticing them and with
deliberate strides, I walked past the back of the building towards a big
black bin. Upon reaching it, I had to hold Petya in the crook of one
arm and against my chest so that the other hand was free to open the lid
of the bin.
Then, without hesitating, I dropped him into the bin. I
heard a dull thud when his carcass hit another. An observer would not
have noticed my slight delay in closing the lid. My last view of Petya
ensured that he was separated from all the other 'hygienically
disposable waste' by a piece of worn bed-cloth.
I went back to Jhenya's room. She was now attending to a patient with
what looked to me like a nasty open grade III fracture of the
metatarsal. An HBC case no doubt. Without taking her eyes off the
frightened German Shepherd Jhenya asked me if I was coming in the
following Saturday. "Yes," I said, beginning to scrub my hands at the
sink, more out of practice than out of anything else. I thought, maybe a
little dramatically, that I could never wash the blood off my hands. I
left the room vaguely aware of the delicate fragrance, the stylish
Italian leather boots and jacket the young, pretty but distressed
Shepherd owner was sporting. But it is the bulging leather purse that
she was holding with her delicate diamonds studded fingers that remains
etched in my mind today.
Once out in the chestnut tree lined street I made up my mind not to
go back to my apartment just then. The day had been structured
originally for running errands, washing clothes, and catching up with
school stuff but I was no longer in a mood for life's mundane chores.
Neither was I willing to meet with friends. So I hopped onto tramways,
transferred between trolley buses and even rode the metro to the other
side of river Dneipr. I went to those parts of that green city where the
tourists gathered—the Pecherskaya Lavra in the city center; the
breathtaking St. Sophia Cathedral; the Golden Gate that was built to
defend the city; the ornate St. Andrew's church atop a hill. Those
sections of the city often provided an escape from reality for me. "Here
are some of the holiest of holy Russian ground," I had heard someone
say once. There I could truly marvel at the fact that I happened to be
living in the oldest city in the USSR, the "Jerusalem of Russia," the
capital of the Wheat Basket of Europe. And as I walked the restored
cobbled street of Andreevski Spusk toward the Podol section of Kiev where artists were selling their wares, I almost forgot Petya.
As darkness approached I decided to try my luck at the Opera House. I
knew that 'La Traviata' was playing there. But as I had expected the
show was sold out. Curiously, I was not dejected. It felt good to know
that even in those troubled times Kievlyanins were keen on the finer
things of life.
Then I walked all the way to the Khreshatik, the main boulevard of
Kiev. The city's bustling main square on the Khreshatik with colorful
lights and sparkling fountains would stay lively long after the rest of
the city retired quietly for the night. Cold, tired, and hungry I
stopped at a café across the square, next to the gigantic statue of
Lenin. Once inside the café, I joined the line of people waiting to be
served. When my turn at the counter came I bought a cup of coffee and 2 pirozhkis.
I managed to find an empty table by the tall glass window facing the
square. It was colder by the window but my coffee would keep me warm.
Two Colombian students at a nearby table were talking animatedly in
Spanish. Their voices, and their language, rose above the general buzz
in the café. I tried not to listen. I turned my attention to the people
outside. Several couples were walking arm in arm, or just hanging about,
engrossed in each other. A group of lively people were arranging
themselves in front of the professional cameraman's tripod. Their color
photograph with the fountains in the background would be mailed to them
in a week's time. A boisterous group of Indian guys walked past the
café. I recognized some of them. They were first year students in
mechanical engineering or something. I had been introduced to them in
the last Indian Students' Association meeting. I couldn't help but smile
when I saw two tall blonde women among them.
In spite of the pleasantness outside thoughts about the day could not
be pushed back any longer. I remembered Petya. I remembered the feel of
his coat perfectly as though he was rubbing against my legs at that
moment. I could recognize his distinct doggy smell even above the strong
aroma of my coffee. A shaft of pain – maybe it was guilt – pierced
through me. But I knew that there was nothing that I could've done
differently. It occurred to me then that my landlady and I were like the
kulaks that I had heard about. Or were we? The kulaks
under Stalin's rule, while trying to resist the process of
collectivization, killed most of their own farm animals. It was said
that about half the country's livestock had been sacrificed. Powerless,
the kulaks, had attempted a way out at all costs. "Just like my
landlady and I had chosen," my young, baffled mind thought. But there
the similarity between them and us ended. Unlike the kulaks, we had no noble cause, only a pitiable reason. So was it really meaningful to compare and contrast? The kulaks' animals, by their sheer numbers, made it to historical narratives. Our Petya never would. The kulaks loss was meant to be remembered. Our loss, so entwined with our shame, would be better buried, best forgotten. The kulaks
had hoped to make a statement. We would prefer to be silent.
Overwhelmed by my own exaggerated thought processes I tried to focus
more on the kulak story. It had also been said that the enormity
of the farm animal catastrophe was lost when around five million
peasants subsequently died from starvation. They had attempted a form of
passive resistance by refusing to harvest their grain. They had hoped
that Stalin would not let them starve. Apparently, they had
underestimated Stalin's ruthlessness.
Thus, I sat there brooding, trying in vain to make some sense out of
my extraordinary yet equally inconspicuous day, to put things in both
historical and cosmic perspective, to draw some meaning out of my
presence there that day when someone tapped lightly on my shoulder. Ah
yes, it was time for the café to be closed. I had to leave.
That night I didn't go home until very, very late. Still, my landlady
was waiting for me. "Was he peaceful?" she asked in a shaky voice.
"Yes," I replied, hanging my heavy coat and refusing to look her in the
eye.
Glossary:
speculanti: speculators, hoarders.
Keks: muffin-like baked goodie.
Kotik: kitten; endearing a cat; kitten-like.
Zaï chka: term of endearment (literally, bunny).
HBC: hit-by-car; part of veterinary jargon.
Pecherskaya Lavra: the Monastery of the Caves
Andreevski Spusk: Andreyev steep (or hill)
Pirozhki: small pies
Kulaks: rich peasants
By Malathi Raghavan, 2000
First published by Sulekha.com
Saturday, June 7, 2014
Condemned
The night is dark...
dank...
silent and cold...
The plantation crops stand still;
the crickets whirr
and for miles around
Everything else lies still.
But hark!
In one of the tiny sheds...
In the dark and the cold
amidst swaddling rags,
Witness
the birth of a helpless soul.
A kerosene lamp greets the babe...
into an otherwise uncaring world.
No doctors, no nurses...
Just an old neighbour with a blade.
No hospital, no ward...
Just a mat for a bed.
No blankets nor warm clothes...
Just rags and the cold.
No high-pitched wail...
Just a tiny whimper,
a resignation to the fates.
For the tired mother, there's no joy
her first born's female...
The tiny rivulet of joy
is lost...
dries...
shrivels...
In its place
a sea of helpless anger
and frustration grows.
The mother sees her daughter's fate
no better than her own,
nor any of her kind.
For she is of upcountry stock
and being Tamil is her fate.
And unto her daughter
she could bequeath nothing...but
a life of suffering...
violence...
hunger...
sorrow...
And finally death.
Blissful, welcomed death.
How to break out...
is the anguished mother's cry
To end this awful fate of
poverty...
malnutrition...
slow death.
A monstrous fate hanging o'er them
The future of the plantation child.
The future of her new-born child
a daughter of the plantations...
Condemned to a stateless being
and rearing yet more stateless.
A fate so cruel -- it has turned
a free land into prison.
To break this fate is her mission
but tears, prayers and submission
Are all in vain
They are of no avail.
Copyright Malathi Raghavan 1985-86
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